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"That doesn't make it any less valid of an intimate moment."
Myth: Certain kinds of people are tops or bottoms, and those roles are fixed
In the gay male community, "top" or "bottom" refers to what role you fill during penetrative sex; topping is when you're doing the penetrating, whereas bottoming is when you're receiving.
Callen-Lorde, an LGBTQ community health center in NYC, surveyed 1,000 gay men in 2017 and found that just 19% of them engage in anal sex (the results are unpublished).
"Anal sex is low on the list of sexual practices that [gay men] engage in," David Guggenheim, the Chief Mental Health Officer at Callen-Lorde, said.
Nonetheless, gay men often judge other gay men if they choose to abstain from anal sex, and even call them virgins, Mark said.
And Guggenheim's perspective, based on conversations with hundreds of patients, supports that claim. "He's definitely a top," someone might say.
Many men push back against the very idea that top or a bottom is a fixed state. "There needs to be relaxing, stretching to get ready for that."
Otherwise, he said, anal sex can be painful.
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From ‘sex means penetration’ to ‘all effeminate guys are bottoms,’ these are the most common myths about gay sex between men
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